Hey everyone! It’s time for a goals update, plus a little info on why some posts didn’t show up at the end of last month.
I’ve mentioned it before, but when I’m pregnant, I have what’s known as Hyperemesis Gravidarum. Mine is managed pretty successfully with medication, but still leaves me in bed or exhausted or with certain food intolerances (leading to nausea and vomiting) until the baby arrives. I’m dealing with that now, as we expect Secundus, and still haven’t found a good rhythm for the second trimester. Which of course means I have grand ideas and hopes for blogging, and then a bad week comes and poof! Nothing gets done! So I’m working on that, and hope that you will understand if things don’t always get done on schedule.
Okay, now for goals check-in! If you are struggling to stay on track, take heart: little by little progress over time is better than none. Each day, each week, each month is new, and so are His mercies. Start again. Toss out a goal that you’ve realized doesn’t fit this season. And take heart. You can do this, one little bit at a time. More encouragement here.
- Cultivate a vibrant prayer life along with consistent Bible reading and journaling. I haven’t purchased a prayer journal yet, but I did start using the book Own Your Life as a sort of devotional. It is just what I need right now! I am also reading through the book of Hosea. My plan is to read through all of the minor prophets, and then pray about where to read after that. Maybe Jeremiah, or Lamentations? I am considering the Life Lived Beautifully “Give Me Jesus” journal for some time later this year.
- Live a healthier lifestyle. Here I’m struggling with lack of energy (which of course, exercising is supposed to help!) I’ve gone on a few walks, haven’t done any yoga yet. When the weather is nice, I take Prima outside to play for anywhere from ten minutes to an hour, depending on how I feel. I’m not as sore or achy as last pregnancy, so I know that I am in better shape.
- Grow in intimacy and communication in my marriage. I learned a couple of communication tips from my mentor this month for areas unique to us. If you’d like to learn some, I recommend checking out the site To Love, Honor, and Vacuum.
- Learn more mothering skills for this particular season. Growing here, little by little. I read the book Baby Knows Best about the RIE method of raising infants and toddlers. It is not about allowing your baby or child to run all over you; but rather, about respecting the way they have been created to develop and grow through the first several years, and treating them as unique individuals who can communicate, albeit primitively, from the start. As a result, it encourages allowing gross motor development to happen entirely on the child’s timeline (no sitting or holding up before baby can be in that position by herself, etc.) and explained the dangers of not doing so. For example: if you assist the child with walking before he is ready or with going up and down stairs, he will begin to rely on you for safety and help instead of trusting himself to do it independently. In a real-life example in the book, this resulted in a little boy falling head-first down the stairs when his father turned his back, because he thought his father was going to catch him as he tried to toddle down the stairs (like the father always did.) The boy wasn’t seriously hurt, but it reminded me that although we allowed Prima to learn to climb up the stairs, we hadn’t really allowed her to climb down, afraid she would fall. We would hold her hand and help her walk down. So after reading this, we started spotting her down the steps, encouraging her to do it on her own. Two weeks into it, she can crawl safely up and down the stairs like a champ, and no longer walks right over to the top stair, waiting for us to snatch her away and keep her safe. Instead, she crawls over to the stair and carefully lowers herself down. Mama feels much safer with Prima walking around upstairs, and I’m ready to try using RIE methods from the start with the second baby. I’m excited to see how that goes!
- Get back to daily music practice. I think I’ve practiced twice. Partly due to having things piled on the piano that don’t belong (ahem!). And partly due to busy days. And partly because I don’t enjoy practicing so much. Goal for February: find a time slot to work it in, probably in the afternoons, when Prima can join me. She loves music and trying to play the piano.
- Be intentional and the initiator in my friendships. I did a little reaching out in January. It wasn’t difficult, but it did take a little effort to remember. This month, I have some plans to do a little something special for my friends both here and back up north. If you’d like ideas for reaching out to your friends, see my Celebrating Friendship post.
- Cultivate a life-giving, encouraging home. A great work in progress! Reading month by month through The Lifegiving Home still. Slowly removing the things and clutter that have been intentionally forgotten, or neglected, or that no longer bring joy. After a conversation with the Norseman, I have been making an effort to have the table cleared, a candle lit, and dinner ready when he comes home, as well as a relatively tidy house. By tidy, I mean Prima’s toys and books and explorative debris picked up and put away. That is what he requested, and seeing that he doesn’t get home until 5:30 or 6:00 pm, its hardly unreasonable.
- Become debt-free! We are excited! We have a big snowball we throw at the student loans each month now, and this payment schedule has us becoming debt-free in March 2018. However, if we are able to find a couple extra thousand this year, we can be debt-free by Christmas! Wouldn’t that be wonderful!